How to Stop Being a Control Freak and Lower Stress | Oz Wellness [0:00-3:35]

How many of you have uttered this sentence? If I don't do it myself, it won't get done right. I know I have, after all, I'm a surgeon, but lots of other yachts there. So I've got a plan for all my fellow control freaks today because control on everything and everyone around you can cause you to lose control of your own health. That's what's happening to Rosemary. I admit I'm a control freak. I need things to be the right way. And I think my way is the right way. It works out all the time. If you do it my way. I have an internal clock in my head that tells me how much every activity is going to take. I control what time my family wakes up in the morning. Come on, baby, you got 30 minutes. Brush your teeth, make your bed. Get up, you got 20 minutes. I never allow my husband to do the laundry because I have this huge fear of him not doing it the right way. You just too much detergent. I'm the one who does a food shopping because if my husband does it, I find that he might buy something we don't need or we might end up going over budget. Where the front? I think we've got crackers. We already have crackers, babe. I control the finances. I have an alarm set for when each bill is yours so that we are never late and we never pay interest, not anything. When it comes to scheduling, I'm the master. This is Command Central. This computer, I have my work schedule and in green, I have an overview of what's going on at home. This manages my husband schedule, my three daughter's schedule and each is color coded. On my tablet, I have an overview of the home schedule and overview of the work schedule. On my phone, I have everyone's schedules to a team. This way, I make sure that everyone is where they need to be at all times to the minute. I fear if I allow our schedule to get out of control, we won't spend time together as a family. I feel like my need to control is wreaking havoc on my health because I put everyone else's need before my own. I am stressed, completely exhausted and I feel run down. It's gotta stop. I'm at my breaking point. Rosemary's joining us controlling everything even how much detergent is in the wash cycle. I mean, it's unbelievable. What would happen if your husband or someone else helped you do the laundry? I fear that they might mess it up, Dr. Oz. We don't have time to really, or money to really destroy our clothes. They might put too much detergent, use too many dryer sheets. It might drive me crazy and then we end up going shopping for more clothes, which put us again out of budget. It just has to be done my way. Most families would never offer and most moms would happily take the offer if it did occur. It's remarkable. It's the opposite of what I normally would expect. And it's interesting, you're worrying yourself about what might happen, but that in itself is paralyzing you. What would it mean to you if you could relearn this control issue and deal with some of the stress that comes from it? That would mean so much to me. However, it has to be done the right way, which is my way. I'm glad I got that. You haven't tried to control the interview. That's awful. So I actually brought a colleague to join me today. Someone who I trust a lot, it's going to help you, but it's going to help everyone at home as well to help loosen your control over others so you can gain control over your own health, which is my goal. Please welcome psychologist Dr. Aaron Olivov. Congratulations, Aaron. Thank you.